What To Do If You're In Love With Your Best Friend ? HowAboutWe ...

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I think I?m in love with my best friend.? Seriously, he has everything I look for in a guy: he?s hot, he?s accomplished, we get along great, and we enjoy the same things.? My family also loves him and wonders why we aren?t together.?

It?s great that you have a friend who is hot, accomplished and with whom you enjoy the same things ? but what about other factors that make for a good relationship?? E.g. mutual interest in each other, shared values and goals, and of course, both people thinking the other person is hot?? Naturally you and your family would wonder why you and this guy aren?t together in a different capacity.? Fact is, not every guy who is a good guy or every girl who is a good girl has to be together romantically.

Plus: Why Friends With Benefits Really Doesn?t Work

At this point, you have two options: leave things as they are to preserve the friendship or open up to him and see how he feels about you.? If you decide to leave things as is can you honestly leave your feelings out of it? If so, then go for it.? If your effort though gives way to your attraction, then you owe it to yourself, and him, to be open about your feelings.? Be mindful of how he might receive the information: 1) There?s the possibility that he has an interest in you so he?ll feel relieved 2) Perhaps your adoring eyes are a dead giveaway about how you feel and he already knows. 3) He might not have the same feelings and everything could change, so prepare yourself for awkwardness.? 4) He might need time to sort through the new information so prepare yourself for a possible separation.

Plus: The 7 Types Of Non-BFs

You must also consider that he might be interested and you may actually pursue a relationship. If you decide to go forward, know that inherent in any relationship is the risk that it doesn?t work out and it could end your great friendship.? Are you okay with that possible outcome?? A safer approach might be to have a general discussion with him about what he looks for in a potential girlfriend and try to determine if you qualify.

Ultimately, you must decide what?s most important: changing your friendship into a romantic one and risking losing him should things not work out, or keeping quiet and having him remain as your friend.

Plus: Breaking: Men And Women Really Can?t Be Friends, Says Science

Jonathan Alpert is a Manhattan psychotherapist and author.? He appears on national TV commenting on sex and relationship issues as well as lifestyle, mental health, and hot-button issues. Get more of Jonathan?s great advice?in his new book, Be Fearless:?Change Your Life in 28 Days. And you can follow Jonathan on Twitter at?@JonathanAlpert?and on?Facebook at?facebook.com/jonathanalpert, and visit his website at?www.JonathanAlpert.com.

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Violent TV Shows Keep Young Kids Awake: Study

MONDAY, Aug. 6 (HealthDay News) -- There's more evidence that watching violent or age-inappropriate images on TV, in movies or on computers can significantly disrupt children's sleep.

Kids between 3 and 5 years old who were exposed only to age-appropriate viewing materials in the hour before bed were 64 percent less likely to have any type of sleep disturbance, such as trouble falling asleep, difficulty staying asleep or nightmares, according to a new study.

Perhaps surprisingly, "violent" media might even include popular kids' fare such as SpongeBob SquarePants, said the study's lead author, Michelle Garrison.

"Making a relatively simple change in what kids are watching is a change worth the effort," said Garrison, a principal investigator at the Center for Child Health, Behavior and Development at Seattle Children's Research Institute. "Sometimes parents feel overwhelmed by the idea of getting rid of TV altogether, but switching shows can make a big difference."

The study will be published in the September issue of the journal Pediatrics, and was released online Aug. 6.

Numerous studies have linked media use with sleep problems, but most of these studies have had children of various ages and varying media use. It also hasn't been clear whether watching something right before bed is stimulating in itself or if the content of the media plays a role.

The current study included nearly 600 children aged 3 to 5 living in the Seattle area. Families were randomized into one of two groups: One group received a home visit, follow-up phone calls and mailings with coaching about how to make better media choices for their young children; the other group simply received mailings about nutrition.

The researchers didn't attempt to reduce the total number of hours of media use. The goal instead was to reduce violent and age-inappropriate content.

The types of programming that are considered age-inappropriate might surprise you.

"An 8-year-old can watch superheroes and understand that it's not what happens in real life," Garrison said. "But the same content can be overwhelming and scary for a 3-year-old. The idea that people might just explode is scary for a 3-year-old."

Garrison said the research suggests that parents should instead select shows such as Sesame Street, Curious George and Dora the Explorer. "These shows can be beneficial for preschool children to watch, because they emphasize things such as literacy, numbers and social skills," she said.

"When kids in this age group watched violent or age-inappropriate media, they were more likely to have nightmares, have a hard time falling asleep and wake up during the night," Garrison said.

The researchers found the opposite was true when kids watched nonviolent, age-appropriate media. These youngsters were 64 percent less likely to have any sleep problems.

"Clearly, children process information while they sleep. If it's the last thing they do before bed, they'll be processing that as they sleep," said Dr. Sangeeta Chakravorty, director of the Pediatric Sleep Evaluation Center at Children's Hospital in Pittsburgh.

Ideally, Garrison said, children this age wouldn't be engaged with any media in the hour before bed.

"Even shows with really good content can still be a problem for sleep," she said. "When kids are reading a book or playing with toys before bed, they control the pace. But TV ramps their brains up when they're trying to slow down."

Chakravorty agreed. "Electronic stimulation at bedtime can affect your child's sleep and affect their thinking process," she said. "It's best to avoid exposure altogether at least an hour before bedtime. But if your children are watching something before bed, make sure it's age appropriate."

More information

To read more about children's sleep, visit the Nemours Foundation.

Source: http://news.yahoo.com/violent-tv-shows-keep-young-kids-awake-study-130413643.html

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Nose for crime: $1.2M in French perfume nabbed

PARIS (AP) ? French police say 1 million euro ($1.2 million) worth of Givenchy perfume has been recovered after it was stolen by masked thieves from a warehouse in the middle of the night.

The scented bounty was taken a week ago from Beauvais, near Paris, and was discovered on Tuesday, according to local police official Jean-Marie Salsat.

Salsat, who revealed details of the perfume heist Friday, said the bottles were found unused, with the stoppers still in.

The Sipa news agency, quoting unnamed police sources, reports that several robbers had overpowered a perfume warehouse night watchman. They later loaded trucks with the fragrances produced by the French house Givenchy, part of fashion giant LVMH.

The thieves are still at large.

Associated Press

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The Problem With Adult Relationships: A Personal Story

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Awhile back, a NY Times article circled the social mediaz (there are so many lately) that examined the hardships of making friends over the age of 30.

If I recall correctly, the article said it was difficult to develop friendships, like the ones you had in grade school or college, over the age of 30 because individuals typically get their shit together by then and decide to scrape off the loser friends who either a.) still live on somebody else?s couch 2.) repeat the same disasturous dating mistakes for years, constantly ask you for advice and then never take it and 3.) drink every night, but think AA is a vehicle assistance program spend more time with their spouse, kids and co-workers at places like Dave & Buster?s than at bars w/ buddies.

Or at least that?s what I got out of the article.

I?ve never been an awesome kick-ass friend. I attribute it to being an only child. And a Gemini. And maybe because I?m a left-handed Jew, I?m not sure. Woody Allen doesn?t seem like he?d make a great friend either.

Don?t get me wrong, I?m not a bad friend. I?ve just never been one of those girls that will spontaneously send you a hand-wrapped gift or braid your hair or remember to come to your wedding or that you gave birth.

If you have drama in your life, I will disappear like a ninja in the night.

I don?t particularly like that I?m a three quarters-ass friend and I try to change, but often feel caught up in the minutia of life. Every other year I will send you a holiday card and feel a sense of? extreme accomplishment. Once in awhile I will call you and fall asleep on the phone.

I have one grade school friend that I regularly talk to (that I haven?t called back in 6 weeks, shit!). Luckily for me, he?s patient and understanding of my disappearances. I have several friends that I regularly talk to from college, but one recently stopped talking to me after I wrote a bad Yelp review about the store he used to work at. Our friendship has been dotted with various ?no speaking times? over ridiculous situations like that and considering he?s neither a chick or Jewish, I have little tolerance for silent treatment (got enough as a child, thanks!) and haven?t tried very hard to break the silence. I?ve met several wonderful people socially in Austin, but when I began to take my writing more seriously and then subsequently met Geoff, I dropped off the social radar to the point where many forgot about me and vice versa. I find that, surprisingly, the only people I enjoy talking to on a regular basis are my friends in LA. Surprised in that when I lived in LA, I felt like I didn?t have a strong support group, only to discover that once I left, I did.

Austin is a very social city and I?ve been fortunate enough through my blog to be invited to various events and shindigs. However, the more I work from home, the more I find myself becoming a cantankerous recluse. Traffic scares me, parking scares me, drinking scares me and large crowds scare me. Noisy rooms send me into a PTSD state of rocking in my chair and biting my lip. These traits do not make for a gaggle of new friendships.

What I am good at is talking to you one-on-one about interesting subject matters in a comfortable setting. I?m good at developing those relationships. Once that friendship has been established,? I may not always go out to lunch or drinks with you when you ask (budget also has a factor in this), but I will be there for you in other ways.

In a time where we have thousands of Facebook friends and are easily connected to so many through text messaging and Instant messaging, I find myself pulling away even more. I find myself resting on the comforts of online communication over real life interaction. It?s cheap and it?s easy. I find myself wanting to focus on my career and passing over the calls for physical human connection.

I know this is wrong- at least, that is what various technology/self-help articles that are springing up with alarming speed are telling me- but is it? Am I just going through a phase? Will I die alone? Will I?!? TELL ME!!!

We live in a time that is so confusing in regard to friendships. Are we supposed to actually be friends with all 1200 Facebook friends? Am I supposed to text my friend right back just because we can now? Is talking to a friend on the Internet any better or worse than talking to them on the phone? I see FB friends tagged in thousands of photos at various parties and outings as they are excellent caterers to their social life. They look happy. They have a lot of friends. Is this how I?m supposed to be?

I wish I could say that I?ve learned something from this internal conversation, but the truth is, I?m not sure what to change. The reality is, your childhood group of friends move away, you meet new people, some you keep, some you don?t, and you spend the majority of your adult life trying to succeed, career-wise and family-wise.

Friendships take work. Maybe I?m too self-centered to take the time to focus on nurturing current and provoking new friendships. Maybe I will see this over time, or maybe, like the NY Times article suggests, I will get worse as I delve deeper into my adult life. Will I wake up one day singing, ?My God! What have I done?!?

What kind of friend are you? What do you think makes a good friend?

Source: http://www.hipstercrite.com/2012/08/01/the-problem-with-adult-relationships-a-personal-story/

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Artificial butter flavoring ingredient linked to key Alzheimer's disease process

ScienceDaily (Aug. 1, 2012) ? A new study raises concern about chronic exposure of workers in industry to a food flavoring ingredient used to produce the distinctive buttery flavor and aroma of microwave popcorn, margarines, snack foods, candy, baked goods, pet foods and other products. It found evidence that the ingredient, diacetyl (DA), intensifies the damaging effects of an abnormal brain protein linked to Alzheimer's disease.

The study appears in ACS' journal Chemical Research in Toxicology.

Robert Vince and colleagues Swati More and Ashish Vartak explain that DA has been the focus of much research recently because it is linked to respiratory and other problems in workers at microwave popcorn and food-flavoring factories. DA gives microwave popcorn its distinctive buttery taste and aroma. DA also forms naturally in fermented beverages such as beer, and gives some chardonnay wines a buttery taste. Vince's team realized that DA has an architecture similar to a substance that makes beta-amyloid proteins clump together in the brain -- clumping being a hallmark of Alzheimer's disease. So they tested whether DA also could clump those proteins.

DA did increase the level of beta-amyloid clumping. At real-world occupational exposure levels, DA also enhanced beta-amyloid's toxic effects on nerve cells growing in the laboratory. Other lab experiments showed that DA easily penetrated the so-called "blood-brain barrier," which keeps many harmful substances from entering the brain. DA also stopped a protective protein called glyoxalase I from safeguarding nerve cells. "In light of the chronic exposure of industry workers to DA, this study raises the troubling possibility of long-term neurological toxicity mediated by DA," say the researchers.

The authors acknowledge funding from the Center for Drug Design (CDD) research endowment funds at the University of Minnesota, Minneapolis.

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1. Swati S. More, Ashish P. Vartak, Robert Vince. The Butter Flavorant, Diacetyl, Exacerbates ?-Amyloid Cytotoxicity. Chemical Research in Toxicology, 2012; : 120706140246003 DOI: 10.1021/tx3001016

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Important Info About Your Self Improvement - Consumer Electronics ...

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